| The sixth and final letter from the ASSCURL acronym for persuading is Liking. People say, "Yes" to people they like. They look for similarities. People will consider you a friend if you tell them a secret. Start small to make sure it remains a secret. If there is one thing you learn about liking, remember this. Think about what you dislike about someone and always do the opposite. To detect a dislike you must listen to your feelings. Whenever you get angry, hateful, jealous or whatever negative emotion, think about what caused this feeling. The same is true for positive emotions. If someone makes you feel good, then identify what caused this. Track this in your persuasion notebook. This takes some practice but the feeling is the key. Keep asking yourself, "Do I do this behavior?" Focus on this technique for a week. Set an alarm or remind yourself to analyze the feeling. I had a bad habit of criticizing people. Because of my nature as a problem solver, I'm always looking for solutions. Most people don't want you to solve their problem. The funny thing is when someone does ask me for help with a problem, I often don't help them. The computer code for this is:
When you can get someone to like you they're easier to persuade. Some methods are: Then there are things you can do to annoy people. This will make it harder to persuade them. |
| 21. | You seem like a nice person. What do you think of someone who takes up to much room | |
| 72. | Rather than trying to figure out why you are like that or why you struggle, focus on identifying 3 behaviousrs that could change that problem even if you don't understand why | |
| 45. | What are feelings like feeling sick (g) | |
| 33. | Embarrassing your boss or co-worker | |
| 22. | isis, persuade like | |
| 37. | Taking/Giving credit for others work | |
| 85. | like getting compliments | |
| 42. | No "Hello" | |
| 15. | Rude | |
| 66. | People don't like being around negative people | |
| 8. | Humor/comedy | |
| 57. | Try to get someone to dislike you | |
| 6. | Did you ... | |
| 104. | we liked being liked | |
| 55. | Warning someone about a behavior that they believe helps them | |
| 49. | Noticing a negative behavior and saying "Boy you're lazy" or some other negative | |
| 63. | Use "very much appreciated" vs. "really appreciated" (sounds like a lie say "really" | |
| 89. | Say commands so it doesn't sound like you're bossing people around | |
| 77. | "It sounds like you're emotional about this vs. | |
| 44. | Humiliation | |
| 50. | That's a really good idea | |
| 12. | Disagree with someone's idea | |
| 17. | Small talk | |
| 97. | Cause they're always a little bit more mature, doesn't it feel like that consistently more mature" | |
| 67. | Get your boss to like you better than the other employees on the team | |
| 87. | We are Asian. Like you.” | |
| 18. | Things in common | |
| 107. | Rules for getting leader to like and promote you | |
| 47. | What time are we meeting them? 5:30 like you said | |
| 88. | … is how comfortable you are with yourself, most people aren't like that | |
| 78. | It sounds like you're passionate about this" | |
| 100. | I'm saying today if X went away it would look like Y | |
| 32. | Give Credit | |
| 90. | Out linear minds do not like nuances and reduce the infomration to the binary "harmful" or "helpful" | |
| 84. | like similar | |
| 2. | The Like Switch | |
| 82. | Strategies to be more likable | |
| 51. | Treating smart people like they're stupid | |
| 81. | What would it be like if.. | |
| 5. | Compliments | |
| 16. | Disliking | |
| 65. | Picture just what your life would be like if you had thousands of subscribers on your mailing list. | |
| 60. | Ellen DeGeneres Jokes to get likability | |
| 64. | The facts don’t matter. Facts never matter. What matters is that the “crazy racist” label picked up enough confirmation bias to stick like tar | |
| 108. | I call Bill Love Mr. Bill trying to be funny and sense he doesn't like it. I don't like ppl saying beam me up scotty | |
| 23. | Trump, persuade like | |
| 19. | Boasting | |
| 101. | Meaning all his preferences for policies and the way he'd like the world to be is based on a high level of empathy | |
| 28. | Yelling | |
| 4. | steps to persuading like learning to juggle | |
| 24. | Really! | |
| 111. | I will vs. I'll probably, I'd like to, I'll take a look, I might, I'll try, I should🔝 | |
| 74. | You've helped me out so much that I'd like to return the favor. If there's anything you need help with just let me know | |
| 62. | Ask for a favor - Ask someone who dislikes you for a favor and they will like you | |
| 3. | Persuade Like Hitler | |
| 103. | Seeing people more increases liking | |
| 41. | "I" vs. "you" make sure you're not singing "me, me, me me" | |
| 96. | because China is willing to wait 400 years for something to develop. (talks as if china) I like where this is heading 400 yrs is good enough. | |
| 94. | Do you consider yourself adventurous and like to try new things | |
| 106. | Nothing drasws a crowd like a crowd | |
| 70. | If you'd like to be added to the waiting list, enter your information below, and you'll be the first to know when we open more seats. -- Ramit | |
| 13. | Talking behind people's back | |
| 27. | Mocking people | |
| 1. | The Like switch has a method to determine if someone is lying | |
| 11. | Talking too much about yourself | |
| 29. | Know it all | |
| 61. | If you're watching on Youtube, hit the like button and subscribe | |
| 99. | So if you're an X and you're trying to decide Y in the old days without an internet you couldn't organize like you can now with social media | |
| 105. | same tribe, acts like us, a relative | |
| 56. | I don't like super-hero movies. What if person loves them? | |
| 76. | Law of the Universe: People are 6x more likely to make a deal with someone they like. | |
| 40. | Getting someone to open up | |
| 80. | dress like your audience when giving a speech | |
| 9. | Pacing and Leading | |
| 54. | 6 Brilliant Tools to Make You Look like a Pro Landlord | |
| 39. | Delays | |
| 86. | like cooperation to mutual goals | |
| 68. | Be likable, friendly, smile | |
| 69. | https://www.getabstract.com/en/summary/career-and-self-development/how-to-make-people-like-you-in-90-seconds-or-less/9888?u=bac | |
| 46. | Spitting while talking | |
| 43. | Pointing outs someones flaws increases their dislike of you | |
| 52. | Think before you speak. Will this increase or decrease liking | |
| 10. | Listening | |
| 92. | Reciprocation can overcome a dislike for the requestor | |
| 20. | Establish commonalities | |
| 30. | Micro manager | |
| 79. | People don't liked to be laughed at | |
| 7. | Mirroring (Isopraxis) | |
| 38. | Don't embarrass your boss in front of their boss | |
| 95. | There can't be all this smoke without any fire but the media is creating the smoke as far as I can tell it looks like fake smoke (scratches head) | |
| 48. | Treating smart people as stupid | |
| 73. | What is it you struggle with or don't like about yourself? | |
| 75. | It's your job to present exactly how you'd like to work togeter and the specific benefit of doing so | |
| 25. | Don't make fun of people | |
| 14. | Criticizing | |
| 110. | 13 things I dislike about Olga | |
| 83. | People say yes to those they like | |
| 31. | Deprival Super Reaction Syndrome | |
| 93. | As the extreme persuader I do a high ground maneuver "If this looks like a meltdown you must be frightened by everything you see | |
| 35. | Never delay your boss when asked to do something, Never make them wait I'll be there in 5 minutes... is bad | |
| 36. | I enjoy the taste of something and someone says "that tastes like playdough" | |
| 91. | The rule for reciprocity was so strong that it simply overwhelmed the influence of a factor—liking for the requester—that normally affects the decision to comply. | |
| 102. | names like dept of defense vs. dept. of war | |
| 26. | Talking at too low a level to someone can be insulting | |
| 71. | the stories most likely to make headlines are THE ONES LEAST LIKELY TO BE TRUE | |
| 98. | I have a thought experiment in there about abortion and it goes like this... | |
| 109. | 7 ways to increase tips from like switch | |
| 53. | You should.. | |
| 34. | People crave praise | |
| 59. | Smart people are disliked | |
| 58. | Snarky |